After the idealization stage, the narcissist begins to notice your “flaws” and blames you for no longer living up to his unrealistic image of the “relationship.”
The non-stop love and admiration is replaced with on/off, hot-and-cold behavior. This is also the stage when the narcissist begins searching for your replacement.
THE MASK STARTED CRACKING…
The narcissist wears many different masks that are appealing to different people. He creates a special mask for each person he targets, to make himself the perfect, only option.
But since the mask is not real, it’s only a matter of time until the mask inevitably begins to crack.
I started noticing these little cracks as early as a few months into our relationship…However, because I was so neck-deep dancing around in our perfect relationship, I brushed off those little “peeks into his truth” as “he must be having an off day”…“that really made no sense at all, but no big deal”… besides, those little things were so insignificant compared to how “perfect” he was for me. ~ I just failed to see that if I put those “little things” into one pile, it would bury his perfectness.
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Spotting a Narcissist
