Discovering that you’ve been a victim of narcissistic abuse can shatter your world as you’ve known it. What you’ve been living wasn’t at all what you’ve been made to believe.
The pain, confusion, and self-doubt that you’ve had to endure – the horrible behavior and repeated lies you’ve been making excuses for. They’re all starting to make sense. However, with this realization comes pain, confusion, and feelings of anger, loneliness, fear, and abandonment beyond anything you’ve ever experienced.
Well meaning friends and family who sympathetically listened at first… begin to keep distance. They can’t understand why you cannot “move on”. But how can they? The NPD thought process and rationalizing is so far removed from that of a “normal” person’s, it’s virtually impossible to understand what a victim is being dragged through unless they’ve experienced the wrath first-hand.
Many therapists and counselors are still not familiar with what narcissistic abuse truly looks like, and victims have been misdiagnosed with depression and bipolar personality disorder… resulting in further invalidation and shaming.
So what are you supposed to do now?
My name is Carmen Sakurai. Certified Life Strategist, Certified Practitioner of Cognitive Behavioral Coaching, DBT, and REBT with over 20 years of education, training, and experiences.
But my qualifications are only relevant because I have been where you are.
The constant suffering and having to cope with the pain was starting to take a toll on my health and sanity, so I gathered every last ounce of strength I had left to fight this, kicking and screaming. I used all the tools, knowledge, research, and first-hand experience to experiment with countless approaches, actions, and strategies – until I was finally able to shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free.
I no longer “cope” with pain. I don’t get triggered by songs, events, and memories. The narcissists in my life have simply become irrelevant. My boundaries are solid and I no longer second-guess my intuition. It can happen for you too. Let me help you do the same.
Have you been asking yourself:
- What the hell just happened?
- Is he/she really a narcissist?
- Why wasn’t I good enough?
- So it was all a lie?
- How do I stop loving them and break myself free from this excruciating pain?
- I have children with the narc so I can’t go NC. Am I doomed for life?
- My life with the narc was deleted like it was nothing – what am I supposed to do now?
- Is it too late to start over if I was raised by a narcissistic parent?
- I was raised by a narc. How am I supposed to know what good parenting is supposed to look like?
- How do I restore relationships with other members of my family who were influenced by the narcissist?
- How am I supposed to trust again?
Education & Certifications
- BSc. Psychology
- Certified Professional Life Coach
- Certified (CBT) Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Coach Practitioner
- Certified (DBT) Dialectical Behavior Therapy Life Coach
- Certified (REBT) Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy Life Coach
- Certified Gestalt Life Coach
- Certified Strategic Intervention Coach
- Stress Management & Burnout Prevention Certification
- Depression & Suicide Prevention Certification
- Certified Digital Coach
I get you. I believe everything that’s happened to you.
Let me help you navigate out of this painful and confusing fog.
Private coaching with me ain’t cheap, but I go all-in with you to deliver SOLID RESULTS.
However, I understand not everyone can afford it… which is why I created a low-cost alternative to my high-end services.