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Carmen Sakurai, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

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You’re Not Crazy. This Really Happened.

I’m Carmen Sakurai. Life Strategist Certified in Cognitive Behavioral Coaching, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, and Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy. I am also a Survivor.

After my last encounter with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free. Let me help you do the same.

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Narcissistic Abuse Is INSIDIOUS

I spent years of studies, research, and training in the fields of mental and behavioral health… but never would I have been able to even imagine the sheer magnitude of pain, confusion, loneliness, and crazy-making experienced in the hands of a narcissist… without living through it myself.

While individuals with NPD appear to follow similar behavioral patterns, simply knowing the “textbook characteristics” of Narcissistic Personality Disorder is not enough to recognize someone with this disorder.

  • The narcissistic cycle of abuse is so covert that most survivors report they weren’t aware they were being emotionally or psychologically abused… let alone even know what narcissistic abuse was prior to being ripped through the shredder.
  • It’s not uncommon for ADULT children of narcissists to only learn much later in life… that their lifelong lack of self-esteem, weak boundaries, and persistent anxiety, self-doubt, and distrust are the result of the emotional and psychological mistreatment they’ve endured as children.
  • Emotional and psychological abuse is often invalidated and swept under the rug due to lack of “physical proof.” However, there are very serious, life-altering consequences the survivors must endure… sometimes, for life.

This experience left me mentally and emotionally destroyed, battling Complex-PTSD, and fighting thoughts to end my life because the pain and confusion were multiplying at an alarming rate.

They tried to break me, but I broke free.
Then I fought with everything I have, to take myself back.
Let me help you navigate out of this LIVING HELL – for good.
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I’m a Life Strategist with a BSc Psychology, Certified Practitioner of Cognitive Behavioral Coaching, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, and Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy, and backed with over 20 years of education, training, and experiences in mental & behavioral health.

My qualifications are only relevant because I am a Survivor of Narcissistic Abuse.

Unfortunately, my years of education and training did not shield or prepare me for my encounters with the narcissists who nearly destroyed me.

But after my last involvement with a narcissistic abuser, I threw all my knowledge, research, and first-hand experiences into my recovery to finally shatter the mask, release the toxic bond, and break free.

I’ll help you do the same.

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I’m so grateful to have found you as a resource.


Had I possessed the words, I could have written nearly every detail of this article about my own incredibly stressful experience. I’m so grateful to have found you as a resource.

Mimi, Survivor

Carmen Sakurai, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
2020-03-20T12:55:16-07:00

Mimi, Survivor

Had I possessed the words, I could have written nearly every detail of this article about my own incredibly stressful experience. I’m so grateful to have found you as a resource.
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Thank you so much for being the loudest voice I’ve heard so far


At last, someone has written about this in which, I consider a brutal and honest style. I’m so very grateful that this subject is getting out there, that these nasty, pervasive women are being exposed. They do lifetime lasting damage. Thank you so much for being the loudest voice I’ve heard so far.

Kim, Survivor

Carmen Sakurai, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
2020-03-20T12:56:11-07:00

Kim, Survivor

At last, someone has written about this in which, I consider a brutal and honest style. I’m so very grateful that this subject is getting out there, that these nasty, pervasive women are being exposed. They do lifetime lasting damage. Thank you so much for being the loudest voice I’ve heard so far.
https://npd.carmensakurai.com/testimonials/thank-you-so-much-for-being-the-loudest-voice-ive-heard-so-far/

Thank you for giving me the strength to choose my well-being.


Thank you for giving me the strength to choose my well-being over someone who brushed me off as trash. 2 Years NC and healing!

Marisol, Jacksonville, FL / NC Coaching Student

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2020-03-20T12:39:23-07:00

Marisol, Jacksonville, FL / NC Coaching Student

Thank you for giving me the strength to choose my well-being over someone who brushed me off as trash. 2 Years NC and healing!
https://npd.carmensakurai.com/testimonials/thank-you-for-giving-me-the-strength-to-choose-my-well-being/

12 Months No Contact


12 months NC. The SOS sanity cards and chats are what got me through. Thank you, Carmen!

Fiona, New Zealand / NC Coaching Student

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2020-03-20T13:06:11-07:00

Fiona, New Zealand / NC Coaching Student

12 months NC. The SOS sanity cards and chats are what got me through. Thank you, Carmen!
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